Monday, January 11, 2010

"You're Fat!"

"you're fat!"

That is what one of the boys in Mack's class told her on friday. I found out this morning, because she didn't want to go to school today.

All children are teased at some point, so I've been preparing myself for the day that I would have to console her and help her through something hurtful that some one has said. To be honest, I expected her to be teased about the way she dresses, or her hair. That would make sense. I mean, she wears boys underwear, for goodness sake!
Yet, she has never been teased about her clothes. In fact, the whole class came to her defense earlier this year when a substitute teacher was unkind to her.

How do 6 and 7 year old boys get so mean about weight? How do they know that it is one of the surest ways to cut someone down? So, here is my skinny (and I mean I can count her ribs through her shirt skinny), little 7 year old standing in front of a mirror, questioning her body image.

Ultimately, I guess I'm glad it happened at such a young age, when what her family thinks and says is still more important than what that boy thinks. Now, I know the reality of what girls are up against. Somehow, I was hoping it had changed in the past 10 years. But it hasn't.
Now, we can tackle this head on, and we will. The first thing I did, was send an email to her teacher. He is fantastic, and I'm sure that he will address the issue with the class in a gentle and nonjudgmental way. At home, we will continue to talk about healthy choices, and how to deal with meanness in general.


Staci Dombroski said...

That is horrible that is being said. I think you are right in telling the teacher.

Felicia said...

Poor girl! Every kid gets teased at some point or another about something, but it's still never fun :(

PennyCandy said...

Boys, they sure do know how to push a girls buttons. For older boys the new phrase is to call a girl "precious" instead of fat. It refers to the movie with the same name.

I'm really sorry Mack got teased, but I'm really glad she told you.

Mel-2nd Chances said...

awwww, that's so sad and frustrating!! Agree that it's great that she told you :) Good luck!